When you become the safe person again We’ve reached that transitional phase where my child has finished school for the summer holidays and is now at home. They’re a little older now and are about to move up to secondary school. They’re in a very supportive school, and generally life at home is, within reason, […]
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When capacity runs out It’s the end of term, and I’ve been thinking a lot about capacity. Why is it that, just when so many of our children are already running on empty, the summer term becomes the busiest time of the year? The routine changes almost daily. Sports days. School plays. Visitors. Special activities.
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The joke wasn’t really about the spider This week I’ve been reflecting on something that happened years ago. I was talking to another parent recently about something that had happened at school for their child, and it resurfaced an old memory for me. At the time, my child was barely managing school. Attendance was patchy.
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When the sofa slips away I saw Kristy Forbes write something recently that really stayed with me. She was talking about that moment at the end of the day when you are so close to finally sitting down. So close to rest. Your body can almost feel the bed, or the sofa, or the shower.
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SATs, half term, and the relentless juggling act This week I want to talk about the enormous pressure that’s on our children when they’re expected to take part in things like SATs. We’re now in the final summer term. Our kids are getting tired, and there are impending transitions looming from September – whether that’s
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Holding it together when you’re falling apart I wasn’t sure whether to write this. It’s a bit of a strange one today, and there are so many emotions. My very elderly dog – a 15 year old Serbian Hound, the most beautiful soul – is at the end of his life. Right now, as I
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This could have felt like a wasted journey Something happened recently that I wanted to share, because actually… it felt like a positive. My child was dysregulated at school. Something had happened and they could feel it building. They knew they were becoming triggered and were worried it might escalate to a point where they
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When your child looks “fine” I want to share something that happened recently, because I think so many of us have been here. You know those moments when you share your child’s diagnosis and someone says, “But they don’t look autistic.” And it always leaves me thinking – what were you expecting? What does autism
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When going back to school doesn’t feel safe For many of us, we’re coming to the end of half term. If, like me, you have a child who is registered at school and attending in some way, you might already be feeling that familiar dread creeping in – the build up to trying to get
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The reality of always being switched on I’ve been thinking a lot this week about hypervigilance. About what it does to us as parents when we are always switched on. From the outside, it can sometimes look like our children are “not listening”, or that we’re too soft, or that we’ve somehow lost control. I
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