Every form asks for their worst day Sometimes everything can feel so full on, so hard and so heavy. I remember, years ago, feeling like I was wading through mud uphill. I felt so alone. You’re desperate for things to change, but in that moment it’s really difficult to see how they ever will. So […]
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It isn’t attitude, it’s anxiety I don’t know if you’re old enough to remember Kevin and Perry – Harry Enfield comedy sketches, back in the nineties. Kevin turns thirteen and transforms mid-sentence from a perfectly pleasant child into a stomping, grunting, door-slamming creature whose only line is that everything is SO UNFAIR. Perry is his
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You could feel everyone watching I had a conversation earlier this week that reminded me of a few things I think I now take for granted. We’ve been on this journey for so many years, and I’m surrounded by people in a similar position, so it’s only every now and again that I come across
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When your PDAer becomes the demanding one Something that gets talked about a lot with PDA is demand avoidance. But there’s something else that goes on, often behind closed doors, that isn’t as widely talked about, understood, or even named. And that is the tendency of a PDAer, when dysregulated and distressed, not just to
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When School Rewards Create More Stress Than Support This week I want to talk about something that has come up again and again in conversations with parents of PDA children – and has shown up loudly in the past few days with families I know. It’s the topic of rewards. Points. Stickers. Charts. Climbing ladders.
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When is avoidance just avoidance – and when is it PDA? I’ve seen a few conversations recently in PDA Facebook groups where parents are trying to figure out whether what they’re seeing is PDA, or whether it’s another kind of avoidance. It got me reflecting on what that difference feels like in my own life,
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